Creating time for personal care and skillful grieving can be challenging, but worthwhile. In this podcast, Margo admits that following one’s own advice is not always as easy as offering it.
Each person will find their own ways to remember people or pets whom they have loved and lost. The activities that bring us comfort will vary, as will the length of time it may take before we become adjusted to our new lives without the companion we have cared about.
I have shared posts and videos here on Body Aware Grieving about my own pet Bunny Jo who passed away just over 6 months ago. It seems like he has been gone much longer than that. I kept a few items that remind me of him, his favorite plants, a mat he loved to sit on and a blanket I used to wrap around him when he became sick.
Slowly I have been figuring out ways to re-use these reminders of Bunny Jo. It can be very liberating and even uplifting to either let these items go, or find new purposes for them, but only when the time is right.
The picture at the top of this post shows Bunny Jo sitting on a piece of colorful fabric he used to enjoy. In my current home, there is a young cat owned by one of our neighbors. With winter coming, I decided use the mat and blanket to make a cozy place for this sweet cat since he likes to visit my patio. Here are a few photos of the neighbor’s kitty discovering his favorite new spot to play and relax.
Perhaps these small changes may not seem important. However, instead of feeling sad when I see these items now, it brings enjoyment to see them being used appreciatively. No longer hidden on a shelf, Bunny Jo’s favorite items are ready for a new life…and so am I.
Of course we welcome your comments, memories, photos and artwork of your current or previous pets.
Bunny Jo ‘stars’ in this video about sharing our lives with pets:
Not ready to have another pet yet full time? Audio podcast about pet sharing:
Examples of skillful ways to respond following the loss of a pet:
Documentary of one man’s last days with his beloved dog:
The following stories are from readers who share their memories of life with their pet cats:
Here at Body Aware Grieving we are always curious about customs from around the world that help people heal. This traditional song: The Parting Glass has been popular in both Irish and Scottish cultures. A sweet song of farewell, used when friends part ways after a visit, also during funerals and memorials. Hope you like it!
Remembering someone can be as simple or elaborate as you prefer.
August 7th was the third memorial of my little sister’s death.
I sent an email to her community of friends with these photos and the words:
Many best wishes, today and every day, to the beautiful Shelley Ann Rotman
July 21, 1968–August 7, 2008
Even a small reminder of a pet or person we love can be very sweet and comforting. Here is Margo’s mini-garden memorial commemorating her pet Bunny Jo. Also included is a previous video (Grieving the Loss of A Pet) “starring” Bunny Jo when he was 10-years old.