This next healing technique, “Don’t Miss Bliss” may be the most important one here on Body Aware Grieving. Simply put, “Don’t Miss Bliss” means prioritizing activities that help us feel uplifted, stronger and more peaceful. We need to enjoy the good times as much as possible in order to more fully heal from any troubles that come our way.
In North American culture we can be very focused on our “to-do” lists, which have a tendency to grow at twice the speed we have to work through them. When unexpected life changes come along like illness, heartbreak or loss of a loved one, our ability to earn money or move forward on projects as we expected can become slowed or stalled. For many of us this can add to the stress level we are already experiencing.
It is very common to end up in a cycle of daily activity that moves from one responsibility, chore or crisis to another with little emphasis on relaxation or pleasure. Making sure to savor experiences that are “blissful” and enjoyable is vital to our ability to function well.
Whatever your hobby of choice, it is important to schedule time to actually do it. The next time you berate yourself about ‘wasting’ time doing something you love, consider whether ‘enjoyment’ is on your to-do list somewhere.
Even during a difficult situation like sitting in a hospital waiting room waiting for news about a loved one, try to find a few moments to savor. Is there a seat closer to sunlight or a great view? Can you walk to a local cafe until you are needed? Perhaps calling one of your closest friends for advice or consolation will relieve a bit of pressure from the experience.
Sometimes a variety of painful situations occur in a row. In my case, the past 5 years have been pretty stressful. Six primary family members died and the recession made finances more difficult. Now I find myself wanting a much lower stress lifestyle and time to just “be” without feeling guilty about it. If five years in a row were upsetting in ways I had little influence over, for how long should I emphasize fun, playful and uplifting choices?
Many types of emergencies arrive all by themselves, that just seems to be how life works. If we choose to go straight from handling problems to catching up on chores, it does not allow us to develop into the vibrant and wiser people we are capable of becoming. We need to mentally and physically strengthen ourselves in order to better handle new problems that may occur.
The main point of “Don’t Miss Bliss” is to realize that pleasurable activities, both large and small, are an important counter-balance to any suffering we may have endured. We NEED good times, and deserve them. If you have favorite ways that you like to boost your mood and rebuild your spirit, please let us know in the comments section!