There are times in life when we are rushing around, busy in our “roles” as employee, caregiver or partner. During magic moments, there can be a complete peace when we are able to express our whole “real” self.
A while ago I hired a professional photographer to take pictures of me for a variety of projects I was working on. The studio lights and costume changes were all new to me and I was excited and nervous. Here is a slide show of images from that day:
I was hoping to do a “good” job and be expressive. Honestly though, the photo shoot was during a sad time in my life as the first memorial for my little sister who had passed away was approaching. My father as well had died just two years before.
As photos were being taken in various poses and outfits, there was one special moment when I sort of slid into a seated position and was overwhelmed by a feeling of connection and love for my father.
That picture, taken when I had a completely open heart, ended up becoming the primary image of me for our Body Aware Grieving website. If you look very closely at the teardrop we use as our logo, there is even a reflection of this photo above the eye.
One day while looking at our website, I noticed the pose I was in and ran to find a photo my father took of me when I was five years old. Always one of my Dad’s favorite pictures, he took this while I played in a sunny cave during a day at the beach. Realizing the similarity, I now keep the two photos next to each other on my wall. It helps me think of the past, present and future all at the same time.
A sense of calm and joy is possible when we are able to balance who we have become so far in life, and who we want to become as we move forward. My hope is that Body Aware Grieving can become a place of healing and celebration for each of us. This post is dedicated to all of us and the people, places, pets and passions that help us feel like our most “real” version of ourselves.
Now, it it your turn…Can you share a picture, painting, song or video that expresses how you feel and what you most care about?
Many best wishes,
Special gratitude to my father Kenneth for being such an inspiration.